Coaching Strategies – Ways to battle your own Achilles’ heels

Following are James Waldroop’s 12 Achilles’ heels, along with short descriptions of them and some ways to begin grappling with them.

Acrophobe: Never feels good enough.

• Stop the damage.
• Prioritize and think about how to let yourself succeed.
• Buy yourself time to grow into a job.
• Act “as if” you belong. Acting “as if” will start to make you feel naturally more comfortable in reality. Once you’ve mastered the act, you will have convinced yourself.

Meritocrat: Thinks the world should be black and white. Resents that the world demands negotiation and the selling of ideas. If something is “right,” that should be enough.

• Plan influence campaigns.
• Think seriously about who the voters are and work to convince them.
• Don’t worry, be crappy. Don’t be a perfectionist, just go for it.

Hero: Pushes hard and does too much. Causes others to burn out and is destructive within an organization, leaving behind him a trail of “dead bodies,” or coworkers who couldn’t keep up with the pace.

• Ask, “Do you want to be a commando or a general?”
• Look behind you for damage. Look carefully at metrics and turnover. How many dead bodies have you left in your trail?
• Get perspective — how many other cars are in the parking lot when you leave work at night?

Peacekeeper: Always avoids conflict. Not a peacemaker, but someone who fears change and prevents innovation.

• Acknowledge the benefits of conflict.
• Use role-playing to make yourself more comfortable with conflict.
• Practice “normalizing” relationships after conflict. Don’t be afraid of that process.

Bulldozer: Runs roughshod over others. Managers often praise their willingness to knock down walls to get things done — despite the coworkers on the other side of those walls.

• Learn the DEW ( Distant Early Warning ) signs that you are about to blow up.
• Learn to say you are sorry — and mean it.

Rebel: Always looking for a cause that doesn’t exist.

• Acknowledge that you are not Che Guevara — you are more like James Dean.
• Ask yourself why you are doing something. What is the real cause?

Home-run Hitter: Swings for the fence and has unrealistic ambitions. Always disappointed at failures, but would have more successes if she could settle for a few singles.

• Recognize the culture of “speed kills.”
• You can’t start lifting weights at 500 lbs.
• Think about growth and harvest times. Successful growth takes time.

Pessimist: Always on the down side and is defensive and risk-averse. Thinks she is defending the organization when, in truth, she stagnates it.

• Examine the downside of not acting.
• You may feel comfortable, but not changing can be just as dangerous as necessary change.
• Make others sound the alarm. Take that responsibility off your own shoulders.

Mr. Spock: Emotionally tone-deaf.

• Learn to think about how others feel. You may never be as emotional as your coworkers, but it is important to take their feelings into consideration.

The Coulda-been: Thinks that no job is ever good enough and that life is full of near misses.

• Think “good enough” not “great.”
• Divorce yourself from the expectations of others.

Loose Lips: No sense of boundaries. Always talking out of turn. Lets things slip.

• Pay close attention to an organization’s culture before you join.
• You will succeed more easily in a company that has fuzzy lines of appropriateness.
• Be sensitive about differences. Others may not feel as comfortable hearing what you are comfortable telling.

Lost Path: Work is without meaning. Lost passion about a job, but stays on without energy.

• Think want, not should or can.
• Don’t blame dissatisfaction on your organization. You will not be cured by migration.
• Get to the root of your problem at your present job.
• Get in touch with your imagination and with your dreams.